Becoming a man is not supposed to be easy.
Men need challenges. They need moments of difficulty.
There are many tests to pass.
Without moments of hardship and challenge, there can be no true growth into the fullness of our power and purpose. Instead, we remain frightened little boys inside, no matter how old we become.
There are two things that are super hard for a man to commit to being great at.
It’s not fighting on a battlefield.
It’s not beating someone up.
It’s not becoming a millionaire.
It’s not having sex with lots of beautiful women.
It’s not attending an ayahuasca ceremony.
It’s not playing video games.
It’s not attacking someone on social media.
It’s being a great husband and a great father.
Those are two things I was afraid of and tried to avoid wholeheartedly stepping into at various points in my life because I knew just how hard they were.
Here’s the truth:
There’s a level of consistent, dedicated commitment, focus and strength required in leading, protecting and providing for a family that you can’t even fathom before you say yes to it.
Every weakness, shadow pattern and shortcoming you’ve been trying to avoid will come to the surface for you to face and potentially transcend.
A great husband and a great father is called to give everything he has for his wife and children, including his life if necessary.
His life becomes a full and complete sacrifice of love, a laying down of his ego into loving communion with his wife and children in accordance with his unique purpose in serving the greater world.
For so many men, not all, marriage and fatherhood is our Divine calling into our power, purpose, wisdom and our highest levels of fulfillment and well-being.
It’s the primary pathway to embodying our deepening communion with God.
And yet so many men run away from these commitments in fear, stunting their spiritual growth in the process.
I’m very grateful I said Yes.
Get quiet and still and listen inside.
If it’s the path you’re truly called to, I encourage you, even if you’re afraid, to say yes.
-Brian Piergrossi
